About Coach Aly

For the longest time, I thought it was important to appear "normal".

I was so ashamed of the messy things happening in my life. I kept quiet while I was dealing with things like sexual abuse as a child and domestic abuse with my first husband. 

When I had a second husband who was gambling my paychecks and his own away, I tried, for a while, to make it look like everything was all right. Mostly, I smiled and didn’t talk about it. 

The discipline needed for shame is to practice revealing yourself. It is bringing into the open the full brightness of your spirit, despite your fear of failure. It is to brave your secret gifts into the open.

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Belonging

And when my current husband decided to embark on a spiritual journey, leaving me in a house we’d bought and moved into just a month before; I didn’t know how to talk about that either.

Our journey into buying our beautiful house had been so public, and I had been so excited. Now, I had no idea what was happening. 

I didn’t know when (or even if, for that matter) my husband would be returning. I went to work, kept to myself, and did my job as best I could. All the while, inwardly I was totally freaking out, and at night I came home and cried.

I was letting very few people in, and as a result, I didn’t really feel as if I belonged anywhere.

That was the beginning of 2017. A lot has happened since then.

Practice revealing yourself.

The antidote to shame is to come out of hiding. The antidote is to courageously speak your truth, at last, to someone you trust, and allow them to love you for who you actually are. That’s step one.

Begrudgingly, (at first), I spoke with the same mentors who had inspired my husband's spiritual journey. To my surprise, I found I slowly began to trust them with the unraveling of my story. All of it. Over time I learned that our wounds become our strengths, and I began to see resilience in myself.

When I was ready, I had a coach challenge me to “tell my story to 30 people in 30 days.” 

What an eye-opener! What I discovered was that my story was embraced and even honored. I found that, in my vulnerability, people didn’t run to distance themselves from me, but instead drew nearer. One woman said, “I know you, now. Like...I feel like I really know you.”

All of that brought forth my courage to begin to speak out and to accept myself exactly as I am, without apology. I am learning to say “yes” to myself.

What I’m saying to you, Dear Woman, Beautiful Woman is that what I offer you is the understanding and intuition of a fellow traveler. I believe you are the one you have been waiting for, maybe for a long time. Are you ready to meet her?

If you are, take the first step by setting up an oppointment with me on the calendar link below. I'd love to talk with you. There's never a charge for the first session.